being judgmental

I live in town but I’m from out of town and I don’t care how people look at me and neither should you. I just feel bad for the people who always have to look at what other people are wearing. It’s probably really hard to try to keep up with everyone . Trust me I look very stylish but not cuz I’m impressing anyone but because I like to dress up. You shouldn’t care what people think let them judge that’s their problem and I wish them luck in the rat race. Just be yourself people!! Be confident happy and real!!

I am not one thatt notices or cares what people are doing or wearing.. but i believe that what you wear and do is a reflection of who you are. so why do you present your self that way? you seem to feel self concoius which tells me that you arent confident with who you are so why dont you look at who you want to be and strive to become that person?

Well said @bb I agree with you however I definitely get where @gossipgirl is coming from…

No, you are not crazy. There are definitely some people/neighborhoods where there is a pressure to look a certain way whether it be in clothing, shoes, handbags, hair (oh, and don’t forget the ever present thin figure struggle). I am probably quite a bit older than most of you and have seen fads come and go (and come back again!). While it truly can be fun and satisfying to find just the right outfit, I know many people that overspend and over stress about it till it consumes them. It’s sad, really, and you should feel bad for those who are judging you based on what you’re wearing instead of say, your smile or kindness. Yes, I know I sound like a fuddy duddy but let me tell you this: When my young single or married nieces (I have sons only) come for a shabbos ( I live out of town) they revel in the fact that they can walk the streets in pretty flats and a beautiful, simple Shabbat outfit without getting ANY “looks”. They leave with relaxed smiles and incredulous comments about how they love the atmosphere here. Dress up or dress down, just be your own happy self and you won’t care what others think. There will ALWAYS be judgemental folks out there.

I don’t think when someone is feeling judged it means they have a low self esteem of lack confidence I think that you can b confident and feel judged they don’t contradict each other with that said I do believe that majority of the “in town” communities are judgmental there are people who live there and just don’t care how people around them look so
They don’t judge but that’s just the minority

It’s so hard not to care what people think but I just couldn’t take the pressure anymore I live in town and whenever I felt like I was being judged I kept reminding myself who cares what they think it’s a lot of work but it’s worth the try